Losing Someone Hurts

Hello All,

Losing someone hurts.

The grief that we feel over that loss is one that we can never fully capture in words.

Over time, the grief may lessen, but it never fully departs.

The loss of a loved one is brought about by a myriad of circumstances – death, conflicts, misunderstandings, divorce, breakups, separations, etc.

There are times when we wish that we could just turn back time to reverse the loss. Could we have done something to prevent the loss? If only we had been more careful, thoughtful, and mindful. Regrets fill our hearts with possibilities of how things could have been.

When we lose someone, it often feels as if we have lost a part of ourselves. We reach out to touch that someone, only to find that she is not there. She has left. She is gone. And that hurts.

Losing Someone Hurts

By Joanne Liaw Sook Ling

Nothing seems to erase the pain

Of losing someone you love

Memories return now and again

Come; bring your hurts to God above

Losing someone hurts; now that's true

Death snatches him from your hands

Circumstances separate her from you

Come; place your pain in Jesus's hands

'Could I have prevented that loss?'

'If only I could turn back time...'

Come; lay your regrets at the cross

God unfolds His plans in His time

Grief leads our eyes to God's mercy

In brokenness, He comforts us

In loneliness, He keeps us company

No one knows grief better than Jesus

His disciples abandoned Him

When His enemies took Him away

The Father turned His face from Him

As He bore our sins on that Day

Cling to Christ, our loving Saviour

Though you can make no sense of grief

When you're unsure and filled with fear

Fix your gaze on Him and find relief

Points for Reflection:

Surely he has borne our griefs and carried our sorrows; yet we esteemed him stricken, smitten by God, and afflicted. But he was pierced for our transgressions; he was crushed for our iniquities; upon him was the chastisement that brought us peace, and with his wounds we are healed.

(Isaiah 53:4-5 ESV)

·       No one knows grief better than Jesus. He was betrayed by Judas, abandoned by His disciples, and denied by Peter. Although those were heart-breaking moments for Him, He still had the constant presence of the Father to comfort and strengthen Him as He endured the rejection, abandonment, and cruelty of mankind.

·       But as He hung on the cross and took the punishment due to sinful humanity, the Father had to turn His face away. The Father had to treat Jesus like a rebellious sinner to save sinners like us.

·       Can you imagine the grief that Jesus felt when the Father turned His face away? All the physical pain He endured could not compare to this heart-rending pain. He endured that separation from the Father so that those of us who trust in Him need not endure such separation, for we have been eternally reconciled to God.

·       We may not be able to make sense of the grief we are enduring. But Jesus knows our pain. He walks with us in our grief. He is there to comfort us when we feel that we cannot go on.

·       Come; bring your hurts to God above. Come; place your pain in Jesus's hands. Come; lay your regrets at the cross. Fix your gaze on Christ and find relief.