Is there someone you are struggling to forgive?
What stage of forgiveness are you at? Are you unwilling to forgive? Are you willing but unable to forgive?
What is holding you back from offering forgiveness?
By Joanne Liaw Sook Ling (13 December 2016)
Forgiveness is not a feeling
It’s not a feeling but a choice
It’s a gift I am withholding
It’s a choice that has lost its voice
The emotional hurt I bear
Cuts deep into my bleeding heart
Is there forgiveness anywhere?
I’m hurting from a deadly dart
Lord Jesus, help me to forgive
To pardon those who have wronged me
Let me, Your strength and grace, receive
That I may show others mercy
Points for Reflection:
Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
(Ephesians 4:32 ESV)
· It is true that forgiveness for an offence so great requires time. Many of us are waiting for the ‘feeling’ of forgiveness to emerge in our hearts.
· However, forgiveness is not a feeling but a choice. Our hearts may be bursting with anger and bleeding from the raw wound inflicted by the offender. Thoughts of revenge may even cross our minds.
· While we may still be struggling with vacillating feelings of anger and sorrow, we can choose the path of forgiveness. After having made that choice, we need to rely on God’s grace and strength to counter the angry thoughts that threaten to invade our minds.
· The Gospel of grace is all about forgiveness. We can show mercy because God has shown us mercy. We can forgive others, even if we feel they do not deserve it, because God has forgiven us when we least deserve it.
· Are you willing to surrender your rights against the offender to God? Have you decided to forgive the offender just as God in Christ has forgiven you?